JOY for Today - Honesty Day 2022
Yes! Let's celebrate honesty. While honesty may not immediately bring JOY, the truth is it builds the foundation for trust and a relationship built on trust sets a solid foundation for JOY. Let's make the commitment to work on honest communication within every relationship. We need all the JOY we can get!
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- Honesty Day's date is strategically chosen to balance out April Fool's Day? By ending the month with honesty, M. Hirsh Goldberg (creator of Honesty Day) believed it would help us end April on a "higher moral note" (Washington Examiner).
- The creator of Honesty Day wrote a book about lies? The book is titled The Book of Lies: Fibs, Tales, Schemes, Scams, Fakes, and Frauds That Have Changed the Course of History and Affect Our Daily Lives and explores how commonplace lying is in our society (Washington Examiner).
- Honesty Day's creation was meant to animate a cultural shift? The author, ten years after the book's publication, noted that our cultural fascination with deceit and deception continues to darken our nation. Goldberg's hope is "that by celebrating honesty and honoring the honorable, we can begin to restore trust within our nation and encourage a greater sense of integrity within ourselves" (Washington Examiner).
- We lie most often to people we know well when talking to them face-to-face? Tony Docan-Morgan, a Communication Studies professor at University of Wisconsin - La Crosse, studied lies told by participants over 91 consecutive days and found that 79% of the lies told were face-to-face with 51% to friends and 21% to family (Currents).
- People who almost never lie are consistent in their honesty? The same study found that while most participants do not lie often, less than 2 times a day, variation in the number of lies told fluctuates significantly on a day-to-day basis. The group with the least variation were participants who lied less than 1% of the time, or almost never, while the prolific liars fluctuated the most (Currents).
- "The Need to Celebrate Honesty" by M. Hirsh Goldberg at Washington Examiner.
- "How often do people lie?" by Tony Docan-Morgan at Currents: A University of Wisconsin-La Crosse Blog
We'd Love to Know:
We'd Love to Know:
Where honesty ranks in your list of desired attributes?
- "Do not tell lies to one another. You have stopped being the person you used to be who did wrong things." Colossians 3:9 WE
- "If you want a happy, good life, keep control of your tongue, and guard your lips from telling lies." I Peter 3:10 TLB
- "Be honest and you will be safe. If you are dishonest, you will suddenly fall." Proverbs 28:18 GNT
- "Whatever is hidden away will be brought out into the open, and whatever is covered up will be found and brought to light." Luke 8:17 GNT
- "Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." John 8:32 NIV
- "In conclusion, my friends, fill your minds with those things that are good and that deserve praise: things that are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and honorable." Philippians 4:8 GNT
- "Every lie is two lies, the lie we tell others and the lie we tell ourselves to justify it." - Robert Brault
- "Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people." - Spencer Johnson
- "Honesty is the best policy. If I lose mine honor, I lose myself." - William Shakespeare
- "It takes strength and courage to admit the truth." - Rick Riordan, The Red Pyramid
- "When you tell a lie, you steal someone's right to the truth." - Khaled Hosseini, The Kite Runne
We'd Love to Know:
Which verse or quote means the most to you?
- Set the other person up for success. When asking a difficult question, prepare them for it. Let them know that you want an honest answer. Provide time and space so they can examine their thoughts and prepare an honest answer. Reassure them that no matter how they answer, you still care about them. And when they do answer, listen. Only ask questions to clarify. Thank them for their honesty. Then, give yourself time to process before you respond.
- Don't say (or do) something, you don't really mean (or want to do). Often, we tend to agree and go along with others to keep the peace. But it's actually a harmful practice. Before you respond to a question, chime in with your opinion, or go with the flow, think about if what you are saying or doing aligns with your beliefs.
- Be brave. Recognize that many times we lie because we are afraid. But in reality, the truth is necessary for growing healthy relationships.
- Forgive and apologize. Know that mistakes will happen. But, when you recognize a mistake has been made, admit it. Then work toward correcting it. If you've been wronged, work toward forgiveness while being honest about your feelings.
- Read more honesty building ideas at Psychology Today's article, "5 Ways to Build Trust and Honesty in Your Relationship," by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.
- Use Philippians 4:8 to keep your thoughts in check. As thoughts run through your head and stampede toward your heart, capture them. Test them against the Philippians 4:8 qualities: Is this thought true? Noble? Right? Pure? Lovely? Honorable? Then, reshape the thought so it does reflect these qualities. Finally, fill your mind with the good, praiseworthy thought and thank God for it.
- Solidify your personal beliefs and practice communicating them - but be open to changing them. Knowing what you believe in is key to knowing who you are. And we need you, the real you, not the "you" that you want us to see. Don't be afraid to express your true position on things. It's okay if we don't agree. In fact, we need to not always agree; that's how change happens. But always accept that the change needed might be in you.
- Practice humility. When someone else speaks the truth about you, be willing to acknowledge and accept it as true. If it is a hard truth, be thankful that you can now work on it because of the honesty of another. If it is a complimentary truth, allow the truth to sink in, thanking God for who He made you to be, but without letting it go to your head.
- Read, "How to Be Honest with Yourself," by Suzanne Kane at PsychCentral.
In Your Classroom
- Learn about Honesty Day with ESL Holiday Lessons. Complete cloze, spelling, vocabulary, discussion, comprehension, and writing activities focused on the topic of Honesty Day's history.
- Read The Boy Who Cried Wolf from Fables of Aesop or read your favorite picture book version.
- Play "A Game of Honesty and Lies" with this Teacher Planet lesson plan and this "Snakes and Ladders" gameboard from Printable Board Games
- Play Telephone (described at Icebreaker Ideas) to observe how lies grow when gossiping.
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